You know therapy is supposed to help.

You show up with a storm inside you.

And by the end of the session, it feels like you’ve just patched yourself up enough to get through the week.

You’ve spent so long in crisis mode, just trying to stay afloat.

And healing? That feels like a luxury you can’t afford right now.

So you leave with more awareness, maybe a few insights…

But then life hits again. And the cycle continues.

Here’s something that doesn’t get said enough:

Therapy isn’t where all the healing happens.

Because the truth is, most of the work happens outside the session.

In the quiet moments when you’re alone with your thoughts.

In that split second before you lash out, shut down, or spiral.

In the small decision to pause and wonder,

“Where is this feeling coming from?”

That’s where healing lives — in self-awareness and self-enquiry.

Every feeling, every overreaction, every urge to run — it comes from somewhere.

And at first, that “somewhere” isn’t obvious.

But therapy helps you name it.

Helps you see it.

Helps you understand it.

Your job isn’t to be fixed by someone else.

It’s to learn how to listen to yourself again.

To make sense of what’s happening inside you.

That’s often what I feel therapy is really about:

Not pushing you to change, but helping you get curious about what’s underneath it all.

And that’s when healing starts to follow — quietly, naturally.